Information on Coaching

Frequently Asked Questions

The decision to seek out and work with a coach is an act of courage and you may have some additional questions before you sign up. My hope is to answer those questions here.  If your question isn’t on this page, please feel free to reach out and ask your question.

Do I really need a coach?

Sure, you could do this on your own. After all, the Nice Guy tendency is to go it alone.  We’re so afraid of asking for help and looking weak that we suffer in silence.
You know the definition of insanity, right? It’s doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
In the end, it’s a personal decision, but ask yourself the question, “What lengths am I willing to go to get the kind of life I really want?"

How much does coaching cost?

I hate when people are vague about pricing so that's not my intention. However, coaching is a long-term (at least three months) commitment and I only work with a few clients to ensure you get my “A" game.

But let me ballpark it for you.  If your engine in your car blew up and had to be replaced, how much would that cost you? In some ways, it wouldn't matter because you would figure out a way to pay for it. If your life has blown up, how much will you pay to get that fixed? Somewhere in the same ballpark.

Is this confidential?

Unless you give me your written permission, our work is confidential. Exceptions to confidentiality are the reports of imminent danger of hurting yourself or others or situations where child/elder abuse is taking place.

My goal is to create a place of safety for you to explore how you operated in the world and find solutions to problems.

How do we meet?

99% of my clients meet me via internet video. I currently use to set up our meetings. 

Is this Therapy?

This is coaching, not therapy. The distinction is that therapy is based on a medical model of treating mental illness.  In therapy, the therapist is required to give you a diagnosis that fits within certain criteria that are set by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Version 5 (DSM-V).

The Nice Guy Syndrome isn't a mental illness and is not listed in the DSM.  Instead, it's a set of behaviors based on faulty beliefs that create dysfunction in the major domains of a person's life.

Therapy seeks to resolve and treat mental illness. Coaching seeks to figure out more productive ways to operate in the world.

Although I am a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Oregon and sometimes coaching interventions and therapeutic interventions overlap, this is NOT therapy.  If I discover a mental illness after working with a coaching client, I will refer them to a professional therapist in their area.

Do you work with women?

Yes. There are two primary reasons a woman could benefit from coaching:

First, women sometimes find they are in relationships with Nice Guys and wants to understand their behaviors so she will seek a coach.

Second, the Nice Guy syndrome isn't isolated towards gender. Many women read the description and find it reflects their own behaviors.

Is this covered by insurance?

No.  Insurance only covers medical conditions. The Nice Guy Syndrom is not a medical or mental illness. While the “nice guy" may also be suffering from mental disorders, this is not a treatment for such. If I find that there a medical issue or that a mental illness exists, I may suggest you seek out individual therapy to work on those issues separately.

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