Information on Coaching
Frequently Asked Questions
The decision to seek out and work with a coach is an act of courage and you may have some additional questions before you sign up. My hope is to answer those questions here. If your question isn’t on this page, please feel free to reach out and ask your question.
Unless you give me your written permission, our work is confidential. Exceptions to confidentiality are the reports of imminent danger of hurting yourself or others or situations where child/elder abuse is taking place.
My goal is to create a place of safety for you to explore how you operated in the world and find solutions to problems.
We can meet in my office located in Portland, Oregon, on the phone, or online in a secure video conference room.
This is coaching, not therapy. The distinction is that therapy is based on a medical model of treating mental illness. In therapy, the therapist is required to give you a diagnosis that fits within certain criteria that are set by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Version 5 (DSM-V).
The Nice Guy Syndrome isn’t a mental illness and is not listed in the DSM. Instead, it’s a set of behaviors based on faulty beliefs that create dysfunction in the major domains of a person’s life.
Therapy seeks to resolve and treat mental illness. Coaching seeks to figure out more productive ways to operate in the world.
Although I am a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Oregon and sometimes coaching interventions and therapeutic interventions overlap, this is NOT therapy. If I discover a mental illness after working with a coaching client, I will refer them to a professional therapist in their area.
Yes. There are two primary reasons a woman could benefit from coaching:
First, women sometimes find they are in relationships with Nice Guys and wants to understand their behaviors so she will seek a coach.
Second, the Nice Guy syndrome isn’t isolated towards gender. Many women read the description and find it reflects their own behaviors.
No. Insurance only covers medical conditions. The Nice Guy Syndrom is not a medical or mental illness. While the “nice guy" may also be suffering from mental disorders, this is not a treatment for such. If I find that there a medical issue or that a mental illness exists, I may suggest you seek out individual therapy to work on those issues separately.